I know. You may have cringed a little seeing the title. I was even unsure if I should talk about this, since posts about praying for your future husband seems like the Christian influencer “go-to.” Let me be the first to say, I’m a little tired of these posts, too XD
I’m not your average girl who grew up praying for her future husband or writing letters to him. In fact, the whole concept made me feel uncomfortable.
A little backstory…
I remember when I first started to hear about the whole concept of praying for your future husband. At first I thought it was really sweet and beautiful. I knew girls personally who filled journals with letters and prayers to their future husband. It inspired me. So I gave it a shot.
Writing a letter to my “future husband” felt very weird and unnatural. It felt forced and honestly, I felt like I was just playing pretend. Pretending to be this future wife writing letters to my future husband.
How could I write to a man I didn’t even know? It was so weird to me and I eventually gave up on it.
The idea of it all sounded much nicer than it actually was for me.
As for praying for my future husband… sure. I did that sometimes. But I think praying for him had a similar feel to me as journaling to him. So even though I would, on occasion, pray for my future husband, I didn’t make it a regular habit.
And if I’m being honest, after my break up a few years ago, I think maybe I’d become more cynical than I realized. What if I spent all this time praying for a future husband that didn’t even exist?
But a few months ago, the Lord really spoke to my heart on this and I felt convicted.
The moment God spoke to my heart…
I was at my friend’s wedding – of course this all starts at a wedding, right? I was sitting with other good friends from church and the couple was having their first dance. (Yes, I cried XD)
While their dance wrapped up, a sweet friend sitting next to me pulled me close and said she wanted to pray for me. I was super confused because the timing was strange, but what she prayed over me touched my heart so much.
She prayed over me and my future husband. She prayed over the marriage we would have and the man he would be.
I can not tell you how much this blessed me. I think about it all the time. And it was this moment that really got me thinking…
Here I am, with a strong desire for marriage and motherhood, yet I never pray about these things. I’m the one who wants to get married, yet my friends and my parents are praying over these things for me more than I am! Sure, I’d pray when there was a specific person I was interested in, but other than that, praying for these things was not a regular part of my prayer life.
One month of praying…
Shortly after this, I felt the Lord really pressing it upon my heart to spend the next month praying intentionally over my future husband. It still felt weird to me, but who am I to fight the Lord?
So I wrote out a list. One thing to intentionally pray over for my future husband and our relationship over the next 30 days.
The first day was a prayer of surrender. Laying my desires at His feet and trusting Him to give me the desires of my heart – because I know these are desires He’s given me.
This prepared my heart as I spent the next 29 days praying over my future husband and the man he would be.
And you know what?
The Lord changed my heart. I started to feel like I was truly praying for an actual person – not playing pretend. Like I was the future wife of my future husband, interceding for him in prayer. Praying for my future husband feels real now.
The best example I can give is this…
You know how parents pray over their children when they’re in the womb? They have yet to meet their child. They may not even have a name yet, but still they pray over the child. Because they know it’s coming soon. And they’re praying over the person their child would grow up to be.
I believe God has a man out there for me. I know he’ll show up in time. And though I don’t know him yet, I can still pray for him. I can pray for our marriage and even for the father he will be.
Benefits of praying for your future spouse:
- Praying for your future spouse exercises your faith in God.
- Praying for your future spouse draws you closer to God.
- It teaches you surrender.
- It prepares your heart to love your spouse the way God intended.
God truly cares about our desires. He wants us to bring everything to Him – big or small. I’m thankful that I can bring these things to Him and start preparing for marriage now by interceding for my future husband before I even know him.
This is bringing me closer to Christ and is a whole new level of intimacy with Him that I’m so thankful for. <3
If you’re interested in challenging yourself to pray for your future husband over the next 30 days, you can download my prayer list by visiting my free resources page! I also made one for the guys 😉
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